Someone asked a question regarding how to word the RSVP’s on the message board of one of the blogs I read regularly (as in every 5 minutes regularly hehe) and it got me thinking. Basically the person had limited room at her venue (who doesn’t?!) and was asking if people thought it was ok to say something such as ” 2 seats have been reserved in your honor” at the top so people know only 2 people are invited. I thought it was a good idea, but a little too, I dunno, in your face about the limited seating. I was thinking what if we put something like…
Kindly respond by April 15, 2009
Bob Smith ___ Will attend ___ Will not attend
Susie Smith ___ Will attend ___Will not attend
(Also, the wording is just for example)
It would take a little more work to personalize each RSVP, but then there is no guessing whether someone’s kids or bf or whoever is invited and would hopefully stop any extra people from coming. What do you think of this idea? Does it seem too pushy or do you think people would just see it as a personalized touch?
I really hope I don’t find that I’m stressing out over the guestlist for nothing and get 30 or 40 people decline the invite, but honestly I think our numbers are pretty solid.
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March 10, 2009 at 10:43 pm
Laura
I think it’s a good way to cover your bases by trying to pin down exactly who is coming considering you are tight for space. I think it saves a headache on everyone’s part. The guests know who exactly is invited and that extras aren’t listed. Plus then you know exactly who is coming. The only other thing I thought of is if you do Bob Smith + 1 guest if it’s someone in which you don’t really know who their extra person will be.
I don’t think anyone would take it the wrong way by you asking exactly who is coming. By the way, how are you doing seating arrangements? Were you going to assign seats or just say it’s a free for all? I remember you saying the possibility of making a seating chart that you can put on your easel. If you were planning on doing this, then you’ll want to pin down every name coming, which makes your RSVP name checklist work well.
March 10, 2009 at 11:00 pm
futuremrsmast
I’m still not sure how we’ll be doing the seating. I think it’d be nice to do assigned tables so that there’s no 1 seat at one table and one seat at another so a couple has to be split up and it’s also eliminate young friends being seated with old folks and not having much to talk about. But we’ll see… I think it’s one of those things where if I get the time to do it I will and if not then oh well. Also, I’m still trying to figure out how I can do the seating for the bridal party. I guess it depends on the number of people that end up coming. I’d like to have all 6 of us at one rectangular table, but I might need all the rectangular tables they have for the buffet and other things. I think I’d prefer not to do the sweetheart table things cuz we’d feel too much on display. Ah, decisions, decisions! Well I should have a couple weeks after I finish school before the wedding where I can work on wedding stuff.